Sensory-Seeking vs. Sensory-Avoiding: What Every Parent Needs to Know

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Every child experiences the world differently, but for some, sensory input plays a particularly significant role in how they navigate their environment. Understanding whether your child is sensory-seeking, sensory-avoiding, or somewhere in between can help you create a supportive and nurturing environment tailored to their needs. It’s also important to recognise that some children have a complex sensory profile and may exhibit both sensory-seeking and sensory-avoiding behaviors, depending on the context or type of input.

What Does Sensory-Seeking Mean?

Sensory-seeking children crave additional sensory input. They may actively seek out activities, textures, or sensations to satisfy their sensory needs. This behaviour can be exciting but sometimes overwhelming for parents trying to keep up.Sensory-Seeking vs. Sensory-Avoiding: What Every Parent Needs to Know

 

Common behaviours of sensory-seeking children include:

• Constantly touching objects, people, or surfaces.

• Enjoying loud noises or fast-paced activities.

• Seeking movement, such as spinning, jumping, or climbing.

• Loving messy play, like finger painting or playing with mud.

Sensory-seeking is often a way for children to regulate their bodies. Activities that provide the right amount of sensory input can help these children stay focused and calm.

What Does Sensory-Avoiding Mean?

Sensory-avoiding children are more sensitive to sensory input and may find certain experiences overwhelming. They might avoid noisy environments, bright lights, or specific textures that feel uncomfortable or even painful.

Common behaviours of sensory-avoiding children include:

• Covering their ears in loud environments.

• Avoiding messy play or certain clothing textures.

• Preferring quiet, calm spaces.

• Showing strong reactions to smells, tastes, or physical touch.

For sensory-avoiding children, the goal is to reduce overstimulation and provide predictable, soothing environments that help them feel secure.

How to Support Sensory-Seeking and Sensory-Avoiding Children

Whether your child seeks or avoids sensory input, the key is to observe their preferences and provide tools and strategies that meet their unique needs.

Supporting Sensory-Seekers

1. Provide Opportunities for Active Play: Activities like jumping on a trampoline, swinging, or playing with kinetic sand can help them meet their sensory needs.

2. Offer Tactile Tools: Sensory toys like stress balls, fidget spinners, or textured objects can keep their hands busy.

3. Encourage Exploration: Let them engage in messy play or creative activities like painting or building.

Supporting Sensory-Avoiders

1. Create a Calm Space: Designate a quiet area in your home where your child can retreat when they feel overwhelmed.

2. Use Soothing Tools: Weighted blankets, noise-canceling headphones, or soft textures can help them feel safe.

3. Introduce New Sensations Gradually: Help them build tolerance for new sensory experiences by introducing them slowly and on their terms.

Why Understanding Sensory Preferences Matters

Recognising whether your child is sensory-seeking, sensory-avoiding, or both in different situations is not about labelling—it’s about understanding their unique perspective and empowering them to thrive. Sensory preferences affect how children learn, play, and connect with the world around them. By tailoring your approach to their needs, you can:

• Reduce stress and frustration for both you and your child.

• Strengthen your bond by showing them you understand and respect their needs.

• Foster their emotional regulation and overall well-being.

How The Calming Kit Supports Sensory Preferences

The Calming Kit is designed to address the needs of both sensory-seeking and sensory-avoiding children. One of its greatest strengths is allowing children to intuitively choose the tool they feel most drawn to in the moment, whether it’s for tactile engagement, movement, or calming reassurance. Parents don’t necessarily need to identify whether their child is sensory-seeking, avoiding, or both—the child’s own instincts will guide them. This process not only helps the child regulate their emotions but also teaches self-awareness and the ability to recognise and respond to their own needs.

By using tools tailored to your child’s sensory preferences, you can help them navigate their emotions and environment with confidence. The Calming Kit is more than just a collection of sensory tools—it’s a resource for creating a supportive and nurturing space where your child can thrive.