Once the big feelings have passed, the kit can help make sure they’re truly calm and regulated. Offer a favourite tool to ground them fully, because a child who is still dysregulated can’t listen or learn. When their body is settled and their eyes are bright again, that’s your moment to reconnect, reflect, and gently talk about what happened. Then tuck the kit away so it’s ready for next time.

It’s hot and loud. Tears, yelling; totally normal. Pause first (steady your breath, fewer words). Then invite choice: “Hey buddy, this is really hard. Want to pick a couple of things from the kit?” Let play do the regulating; you co-regulate beside them by simply being present. Repair comes after ONLY when they're regulated and receptive.

You notice the tells; whiny voice, hitting or throwing, “no” to everything. Pause with them, get low, breathe, and offer the kit before it boils over: “Do you want to choose something from the kit?” Using it early gives their body and mind a chance to reset before the big feelings take over.

The Calming Kit uses our simple Pause → Play → Repair method to guide you and your child through big feelings with a little brain science built in.

PAUSE: Stop and create space for calm. This “break state” interrupts the stress cycle.

PLAY: Use sensory tools to engage the body and mind. This stimulates the nervous system and helps the body regulate faster than talking alone.

CONNECT: Once the body is calm, the brain is receptive. This is when real connection and learning can happen, so you can talk, problem-solve, and grow together.